What is the difference between a person who really wants to be successful and a really successful person?
Mindset.
It all comes down to this…
Are you interested in your success or are you committed to your success?
If you are just interested, you will come up with all kinds of excuses as to why you have not quite become as successful as you want to be. You will blame others for your lack of success. You will constantly complain about the things that are holding you back from your success.
If you are committed to success, you will do anything and everything you need to do to reach the level of success you are seeking. You will own up to all your decisions and when you make a decision that does not quite work the way you wanted, you will take full responsibility for that decision, you will learn the lesson from the event and use it to help guide you to the next decision.
Are you catching the underlying commonality here?
There is one and only one thing that is creating your success – YOU.
Your choice. Your mindset. Your responses. Everything you do creates your reality.
If you are in the “interested” group and wondering why everyone around you is successful while you are struggling every day to make ends meet, it is time to stop and take a good look at your mindset and see where your head is really at.
Is your mindset focused on the next success or the next challenge?
The words you use, whether in conversation with others or just to yourself, matter.
When you are constantly working on the next challenge you are facing that is standing in the way of your success, guess what you are going to get more of…challenges in the way of your success!
What you say and what you think along with the choices and actions you take, create your reality.
If success is what you are looking for, then you must create the mindset for success if you want to actually succeed.
Trust me, I get it. As a business owner multiple times over, I learned the hard way that it was actually ME that was standing in the way of my success.
I had owned multiple tech companies that got by okay, yet they never really reached the level of success I would have liked.
It was not until I realized that the common denominator was me.
I was constantly looking for and chasing the next business challenge. I finally understood that I would never be successful because all I ever thought about was the next challenge in front of me.
It wasn’t that I wasn’t doing the work. It was that I was creating a lot of drama around doing the work. Everything was an uphill battle. From getting clients to dealing with employees, to handling the day-to-day tasks of my small business, I was constantly anticipating the next issue.
And in anticipating the next issue all the time, guess what I got? More issues to anticipate!
Yup! I finally came to realize that it was my own mindset around my business that was holding me back.
Once I acknowledged that (of course I didn’t at first…after all, it couldn’t be my fault, right? I had to blame someone else!) and created my new “I’m committed to my success” mindset, everything changed.
I started attracting the people I needed to help me grow my new business. I started attracting the solutions to all those perceived challenges and began to resolve them one by one. I started attracting the people who needed and were ready for my services.
Every now and then I would find myself slipping back into my old mindset. That was when I created a sign that I keep in front of me every day and I read it whenever I needed that extra boost. It reads “I am working on my business in joy and happiness, easily attracting exactly what I need to work through any situations that arise calmly and competently.”
It worked.
It switched my brain from the “I am working on the next problem.” mindset to “I am working on the next solution.” mindset.
I changed my mindset, and it changed the entire trajectory of my business.
Where is your head at? Is it looking for the next problem? Or is it looking for the next solution?
Here are a few tips on how to get, and keep yourself in a more positive, successful mindset.
1) Be present. Pay attention to where your thoughts are going. Only about 2-5% of your thoughts are coming from your conscious mind. The rest of the 95-98% are all coming from your subconscious. When you are not present, you may not even realize that you are keeping yourself stuck in a pattern that is holding you back.
When you start practicing being present, you start to catch yourself before the excuse, blame or complaint has time to come out of your mouth. When you catch it, you can now control it and choose to respond in a different way. Stop and take a moment before that automatic blame, complaint, or excuse comes out of your mouth. Think about where it is coming from. Whatever is going on, you created it.
Take responsibility for your choices and actions and instead of making excuses, complaining, or blaming, acknowledge it for what it is and then make a new choice and take a new action that gets you closer to the outcome you want.
2) Keep your mind in a state of gratitude for all the positive things that are contributing to your success. Without gratitude, that brain of yours loves to find the drama in everything. When you keep your mind in a state of gratitude, you actually retrain your subconscious to look for more things to be grateful for.
3) Use a timer. Your brain can only pay attention and focus on something for about 30-45 minutes at a time. After that, your mind starts wandering – looking for squirrels. That is exactly when you start coming up with excuses as to why you didn’t get done what you wanted to get done! Set a timer for 45 minutes and when it goes off – stop. Take a 15-minute break and let your brain do all the wandering it wants before you come back and refocus on the task at hand and successfully complete it.
If you have not yet reached the level of success you are seeking, take a deep look into yourself. Where is your mind focusing? Is it focusing on the next challenge or the next excuse? Is it looking for the next person to blame for whatever is not going right?
Be committed to your success. Take control of your thoughts and emotions and take 100% responsibility for everything you create.
Nurture a mindset that is committed to success.
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